Cope with High Stress
Cope with High Stress
What strategies do our coaches have for you?
Quick suggestions for flourishing during and after this perilous time from 10 Silicon Valley Change coaches.
Episode 3: How to Stay Connected While Social Distancing – Ilene Schaffer
Answers the question: How do we connect socially with others so that we leave feeling energized and not depleted? 1. Why? Who? How? and When of socially connecting. 2. Who do we let in right now? Who do we keep at a distance? 3. Connection Menu 4. Build your A-team.
Episode 19: Self Care & Avoiding Burnout During Difficult Times – Venessa Perry
After discussing both burnout and self-care as an antidote, Venessa makes 3 key points: 1. Your well-being is as important as anyone else’s. 2. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. 3. Taking care of yourself makes you better able to care for others. Make it non-negotiable! Includes 9 ways to practice physical, mental, or spiritual self-care and 10 specific activities. See Venessa’s bio at svchange.com/Venessa
Episode 21: How to Successfully Navigate Negativity at Work and at Home – David Pollay
1. So much negativity around. It can whittle away at our health. 2. Framework for dealing productively and effectively with negativity from others. 3. Don’t dump on ourselves! (Avoid regrets and toxic worry.) 4. Law of the Garbage Truck is one possible solution ( amzn.to/2W8W8Qh ) Along with some additional tools… See David’s bio at svchange.com/David
Episode 24: All My Questions Answered: Brian Branagan and Doug Turner
Questions and answers with three coaches. Sample questions: 1. What if your manager is asking you to do even more than before when your home demands are also increasing? Now it feels like you’re being asked to do way more than 100% (Scrum boards on Trello, Eisenhower matrix — use at work AND at home) 2. How can people keep connecting with others without connecting feeling like yet another to-do? (View as opportunity to revitalize, do it in a way that feels fun, frame it as recess; Map out the people who are important and reminisce about why those people are in your life.) View Doug’s bio at svchange.com/Doug View Brian’s bio at svchange.com/Brian
Episode 27: Reducing Stress and Anxiety during This Time with Louisa Jewell
Louisa polled the viewers, finding that they were feeling stress at an average of 6 out of 10. Then she talked about both the day-to-day stressors and the moments of high stress. 1. Three things to understand about yourself and stress: the emotions that occur when you get stressed out, the thoughts (what you are saying to yourself), and the physical effects. We will talk about each of these because all suggest ways to handle stress. 2. Review of the SCARF model of stressors: Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, and Fairness. 3. Rethink your standards: “Peace at 6” For an article based on this interview, see www.linkedin.com/pulse/stress-triggers-strategies-senia-maymin/ For more videos in this series, check out the Tools menu at mycoach.zone
Episode 28: AMA about Strategies for Working Remotely – Silicon Valley Change coaches
1) 02:53 Everybody’s complaining about social distancing. Is it bad that I enjoy it? 2) 05:30 I wake up in the morning either feeling “Hey, I got this,” or “Oh no! I’m so far behind.” How should I handle this? 3) 14:30 People need me too much. I have too many meetings, too many people calling on me. What should I do? Visit the coach bios: Sandy Lewis at svchange.com/Sandy David Pollay at svchange.com/david Ilene Schaffer at svchange.com/ilene Giselle Timmerman at svchange.com/giselle
Episode 29: Remember to Breathe: Creating Coherence in a Crazy World – Brian Branagan
* To build cohesive teams across distances, invite people to breathe together. * Different kinds of breathing produce different moods and mindsets. * Slow dropped breathing is available to you at any time to combat incoherent thoughts! Suzanne Zeman’s Listening to Bodies: A Somatic Primer – amzn.to/2Aeh1lX HeartMath: experience.heartmath.com/ For a LinkedIn article based on this video, visit www.linkedin.com/post/edit/6667570890160644096/ For more videos in this series, check out the Tools menu at mycoach.zone
Episode 34: Ask Me Anything with Sandy Lewis and Kelly Beischel
Coaches Sandy Lewis and Kelly Beischel answer the questions: * I’m feeling drained and exhausted. What should I do about this tiredness? * There are waves of uncertainty going on now. How should we deal with the uncertainty? To view other videos in the Work Remote series, visit mycoach.zone/workremote To visit Sandy’s bio, go to svchange.com/Sandy To visit Kelly’s bio, go to svchange.com/Kelly
Episode 36: The Power of Hope – Doug Turner
Hope depends on three factors: 1. Pathway thinking: Can you see at least one path to where you want to go? 2. Agency thinking: Can you picture yourself walking those paths? 3. Goal thinking: Do you have a goal that is really your own? In this time of COVID-19, we all need to find new pathways, as old ones are blocked. When one pathway gets blocked, we can change our energy to follow another. That skill, which preserves hope, will be useful to us throughout life. View Doug’s bio at svchange.come/Doug
Episode 38: What if? Preparing Ahead to be Resilient – Kathryn Britton
Kathryn describes four actions that people can take ahead of adversity to be ready when it comes. 1. Learn how to calm yourself down. What works for you? 2. Collect a positive portfolio of things that give you pleasure. 3. Practice reframing what happens. Know where you have interpretive latitude. 4. Inventory your resources. To read more about these 4 steps to resilience, check out tinyurl.com/BuildResilienceforHardTimes Visit Kathryn’s bio at svchange.com/Kathryn See more Work Remote Strategies at tinyurl.com/WorkRemoteYoutube
Episode 43: AMA about Strategies for Working Remotely – SVC coaches
Kelly Beischel and Ilene Schaffer answered the following questions: 1. I feel like I’ve entered the second stage of the pandemic. And now I need to be productive. So what should I start with? Cleaning my garage? Growing my business? 2. There are often important meetings after the meeting with no ability to really read the other person’s body language or get their temperature, pun intended. How do I foster these conversations and establish those sponsors and those champions? 3. What do you most wish for our viewers today? What is the suggestion you have for them or a wish for them as they go off to their weekend and then the next week of work? Visit Kelly’s bio at svchange.com/Kelly Visit Ilene’s bio at svchange.com/Ilene See more Work Remote Strategy videos at mycoach.com/WorkRemote
Episode 52: ABC+DE and the Collaborative Communication Framework – Ilene Schaffer
Ilene Schaffer walked us through two tools that she uses frequently with clients: * The ABC plus DE model, which is a way to get unstuck from an unhelpful negative spiral and shift thinking in more powerful directions. * The Collaborative Communication Framework, which is a way to approach difficult conversations or present something in a way that motivates people to jump on board. For more videos in the Work Remote Strategies series, visit mycoach.zone/workremote/ Visit Ilene’s bio at svchange.com/Ilene
Episode 149: “Hurry Up and Wait” with Senia Maymin
Use WAIT as an acronym: * W is for Walk, look around, observe * A is for Aimlessly think. Daydream! * I is for Important: Look at your priorities. * T is for Tie your shoes. Regroup. Self-care. For more videos in this series, visit mycoach.zone/workremote
Episode 154: Between Now and Year End with Senia Maymin
Three tools to help you be your best self between now and year end: 1) What if? Imagining that you are already the person you want to be. 2) Game changer (Ilene Schaffer) — www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-transform-2020-25-minutes-ilene-schaffer-senia-maymin/ 3) Feedforward (Marshal Goldsmith) — www.marshallgoldsmith.com/articles/1438/ For more videos in this series, see mycoach.zone
Episode 156: The one question to ask in a JUMBLED day
What single question could help you see a path through the jumble?
Episode 160: Big Picture Work with Ilene Schaffer
How do I focus on the big picture when there are so many things that need to be done? * Consider pitfalls. * Ask questions: Who can help? What? Why (the magnet)? When (is your energy the best)? Where? For more videos in this series, visit mycoach.zone
Episode 199: When You’re Frustrated and Want to Vent with Senia Maymin
When we are going through a difficult time, it can be helpful to share our feelings with others. But sometimes we are so overwhelmed that we dump our worries on our loved ones. How can we consciously and considerately share our concerns with others? Senia explains the questions + emotion framework. For the LinkedIn article based on this video, visit www.linkedin.com/pulse/when-youre-frustrated-want-vent-senia-maymin/ For more videos in this series, check out the Tools menu at mycoach.zone
Episode 219: Capitalize on Adversity with Gemma Nastasi
This is an episode in the Believe Show. Gemma believes that we can find opportunity during times of adversity. * Take good care of ourselves * Give ourselves deadlines to stop ruminating * Make a plan and take action * Believe that good can come of hardship. Gemma’s web site: gemmahealthcoach.com
